The role of forgiveness is underestimated. It is one of the humanizing abilities capable of bringing some comfort and getting rid of the burden that would be able to sustain us for years. You could say it’s actually healing. Accepting the state of affairs and simply moving forward, with your head held high and your conscience clear.

We live in an imperfect world where everything has its flaws. The mindset that allows forgiveness helps us to accept that sometimes we have to go through a less than ideal moment in our lives. Whether it is dealing with an unpleasant person or situation, without feeling excessive frustration. Most believe that forgiveness is merely an example of kindness. However, it contains more than that. It is also the healing of wounds,  the proper understanding, attitude and behavior. Restoring self-respect and correcting what is wrong.

People often face a common challenge – too focused on resentment, blame, and self-pity. This can lead to negative emotions such as stress, anxiety, or depression. Our relations with people will also deteriorate, and we will not be able to rebuild our trust. Stuck with the one pattern in the head, blocking our personal growth. Remaining in constant conflict has no positive outcomes, so it is worth trying to look at it with an open mind. When it comes to severe injuries that seem unforgivable to us, it is necessary to treat them carefully. Instead of total forgiveness, we can try to ease the symptoms of the outrage and reduce the burden that anger puts on our mood and way of thinking. Trying to create space for normal relationships and activities to continue. Total forgiveness in this situation is a more distant goal, but not impossible. We just need time for anger to be reduced to the level of common sense. Forgiveness is an action that can be used to solve a variety of problems. We can forgive people, situations, and events that have caused us irritation and anxiety. In this way, we accept the flaws of our culture and society that exist for everyone. This is what reality is, despite the fact that we are striving to improve. Why not create a healing atmosphere that will help us heal our emotional wounds and build healthy minds, bodies, and relationships? This does not mean that we fully accept harmful behavior and will not reject it. It’s about empowering ourselves. So that old obstacles do not hinder us in the present or in our growth. Because if we continue to stick to these wounds, negative feelings will affect our quality of life. 

Genuine forgiveness has the power to ease our pain and increase our capacity for acceptance, confidence, and peace in life. It’s a positive outlook that can help you deal with challenges more effectively without needlessly sinking to the bottom. It affects us deeply and allows us to unleash a better self in us, removing obstacles that are unfavorable to our growth. Don’t wait for the apology to start the healing process. No one has as much to gain from self-help activities as ourselves.

Aleksandra Szumielewicz

Sources:

Insighttimer.com – Mastering the Art of Forgiveness